Start with Why

I love reading books that challenge me. However, there are few books that completely change the way I do things in life, love and leadership. This book changed me in all of the above.

I was originally aquainted with Simon Sinek while watching his presentation at the TED Talks. I was fascinated by his Golden Circle Theory and the implications of it. So, I bought the book. After the book, I subscribed to his blog. I don’t know where it’ll stop!

Start with Why begins by giving a snapshot of the present world we live in. Everyone is trying to get everyone else to buy their products and services. The way they do this is to offer incentives like lower prices, rebates, perks or gimmicks. He then showcases several organizations who have higher prices, no rebates, perks or gimmicks, yet do exceptionally better than their competition. Not only is their bottom line bigger than their competition, so is their impact on culture and society. His reason for this is that successful leaders and companies always begin their communication with why they do what they do.

People don’t buy what you do, they buy why you do it.

Giving examples of such companies such as Apple and Harley Davidson, Sinek outlines how these companies operate through what Simon calls the Golden Circle. They always start with WHY they do what they do, then they work out HOW they do what they do and lastly they do WHAT they do.

Throughout the rest of the book, Sinek teaches how a leader can discover his or her WHY and then use it to engender trust in their employees and customers. I found this part very helpful.

Through reading this book, I have become convinced that knowing why I do something is just as applicable to my calling as a pastor and my role as a husband and father. My church must know why the church does what it does. My family needs to know why we do what we do.

I strongly recommend this book to everyone! No matter your stage or place in life, knowing why you do what you do will take you further.

Book Review: Plan B

This is my first blog post in a month, and it’s good to be back! Script Frenzy was a lot of fun full of excitement and hard work. I now have a first draft written of another story that was sitting in my story pile. As all firsts do, this draft stinks. When I pull it down from the shelve and begin to rewrite it, then the fun begins.

Today, I will be starting off my blog posts with a book review of Pete Wilson’s Plan B. It is a compelling work on what to do when life does not turn out the way that you had planned, which so often is the case. Filled with poignant true life stories of individuals and couples who faced horrific disappointments in their life, Pete uncovers the hope that brought them through their tragedies to happiness on the other side.

The first thing that struck me in reading the book is how comprehensive it is. Many who write on the subject of personal pain tend to limit their scope to a particular type of suffering. Some speak of chronic illness. Others of relational crisis. Still others of  personal failure. Pete covers them all, including the loss of lifelong dreams. Relating these circumstances to the lives of Biblical characters, Pastor Wilson assures us that even if we don’t know understand what is happening to us, we can trust that God is still loves us.

That’s the crux of the book. All of us have some kind of plan for our lives. It’s a good plan with success and happiness in the picture. The reality is that each one of us, with our carefully thought out plans, will be forced to throw the plan away and divert to a plan we never considered–Plan B. Plan B’s come in many forms, but they will come. In those times, we can choose to trust that God is there and will walk us through it, or we can give up hope.

Pete Wilson points us to the cross as the sign of hope’s triumph, even in the face of a Plan B. God did not keep His Son from a painful event, even death. Yet even in death, God still had the last word and resurrected His Son. In the same way, God always has the last word and will resurrect our broken souls.

Get the book. You won’t regret it.

Book Review: Everyone Communicates Few Connect

There are only a few books each year that I mark up and try to apply directly to my life each year, and Everyone Communicates Few Connect by leadership expert John C. Maxwell is one of them. The book is founded on the premise that every leader is talking, but that does not guarantee that the followers are listening. In order for them to care about what the leader is saying, there must be a real connection between leader and follower. Maxwell, in his typical outline style, shows us how to do just that.

The book has two parts: Connecting Principles and Connecting Practices. In the first part of the book, John shares what he believes connecting is and what must happen for a connection to occur. Some headlines in the table of contents here are “Connecting Is All About Others,” “Connecting Goes Beyond Words,” and “Connecting Always Requires Energy.” In this part, he gives personal anecdotes of his own journey as a communicator–the good, the bad and the ugly.

In the second half of the book, Maxwell outlines the many things a communicator can do that will ensure a connection between the speaker and audience. He breaks these practices down into three categories: 1) One-on-one communication, 2) Small group communication, and 3) Large group communication. This is the rubber-meets-the-road section of the book where I will be writing most of my notes. Some headlines in this section include “Connectors Connect on Common Ground,” Connectors Create an Experience Everyone Enjoys,” and “Connectors Live What They Communicate.”

Honestly, I’ve never been a John C. Maxwell reader. I have found all of his past bestsellers to be dry, interminable lists of things to do as a leader. Everyone Communicates Few Connect, however, was surprisingly warm and vibrant. It is full of stories and quotes from famous and not-so-famous leaders. In fact, Maxwell did something in this book that I’ve never seen another author do. He collected the input of his blog readers concerning the theme of his book and then peppered their responses throughout the book. A remarkable idea that gives the book such a personal, home-grown touch, I don’t believe anyone could read it and not enjoy it.

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Book Review: Obstacles Welcome

Today, I am posting a review that has been a long time in development. That is, this book has been developing me and I wanted to give the process some time before publishing my opinion on Ralph de la Vega‘s book, Obstacles Welcome.

Obstacles Welcome is a combination of AT&T Mobility President and CEO Ralph de la Vega’s  life story and the resulting life and leadership philosophies he gained through his experiences as a Cuban immigrant who worked his way to the top of one of the world’s largest communication companies. Starting out, de la Vega gives us an insight into his humble beginnings when his parents sent him to America by himself as a young lad of ten years old. In Miami, Ralph worked hard to get through school and support himself by working odd jobs. After college, he began a career in telecommunications through BellSouth.

De la Vega describes in detail the intense milestones of his career and then unravels the life lessons he learned from them on his way through middle management to the executive team. He postulates that it was only through the large–and sometimes unexpected–obstacles that came his way was he able to learn and grow as a leader. He encourages us to not only accept the obstacles in front of us as leaders, but to go after them if we have the choice! Bold statement that obviously produced bold results in his life.

In essence, Obstacles Welcome is a manifesto of one man’s incredible journey through life and leadership. The best thing about the book for me was the breakdown of how Ralph resolves conflicts, his decision making process and his strategies for creating success. I have been applying these principles directly to my work as a pastor at Tabernacle of Praise, and I believe that you would find them useful as well. Buy the book. You won’t regret it.

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Book Review: Green

Here is another Thomas Nelson book review, everyone! I finished Ted Dekker’s Green just today, and I am anxious to tell you all what I think. Green is the fourth, and final–maybe, installment in Dekker’s Circle series, which are directly related to his Paradise novels (Saint, Sinner and Showdown) and his series called the Lost Books. The links between these novels are numerous, varied and confusing; albeit they are coherent and brilliant. In all of the above-mentioned novels, Dekker has created a fantasy world in which elements of the spiritual realm in our own world become real characters and settings. It is a modern-day fable paralleling those great works of literary history like The Pilgrim’s Progress, The Lord of the Rings, and The Chronicles of Narnia.

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There are several criterion important to me when judging a work of quality fiction–character development, pacing and the ending. Others may have other priorities for their literary tastes, but these are what I crave when reading and that is how I will review his book.

It is difficult enough for an author to effectively develop a character over the course of one book, let alone four books. The protagonist must change in believeable ways from start to finish in each novel, and like in the Circle Series, that character must change noticeably throughout the course of the series. Ted Dekker’s character Thomas Hunter is truly a deep and believable character who goes from being an impetuous, street-smart youth in the first novel, Black, to a venerated general of futuristic, nomadic armies in Green. Really, it’s how Dekker leads us through Thomas’ mind that makes the whole fantasy worth taking seriously as the reader feels an immediate attachment and empathy with Thomas. Even in Green, the series’ apocalyptic installment, we find Thomas changing. In the beginning of the book we see the struggling washed out and tired leader who suddenly finds reserves of courage and hope deep within him with the help of Elyon. He returns with a determination seasoned with knowledge. I rarely have found characters so well treated throughout the course of a series.

I have one word to describe Dekker’s pacing in this novel–”whoa.” The pace of each conflict in the book will leave the reader breathless. As a matter of fact, I waited several hours before writing this review just so I could catch my breath! Every scene is laced with emotional and physical tension. If you enjoy some time to breathe in your novels, don’t pick this book up. It will have you looking for a respirator. One nice addition to the pacing of series in this book is a morbid romance set between two dark characters. It was particularly chilling to feel the sensual tension between these two in a Christian fiction novel. Well done.

In every book I read, I love a good, solid ending. It could be a tragedy or comedy, but I like to see things resolved to a good degree. Every good story must end sometime. As much as I don’t want to admit it, I was largely disappointed in the way Green ended. One would think that an apocalyptic book would make an easy way for an author to end a story, no matter how hoaky it may be (Like when everything is about to go to you-know-where, and aliens suddenly appear out of nowhere and save some people. Aliens weren’t a part of the story, but suddenly they’re a part of the solution. Come on. Where’s the creativity in that?), but Ted Dekker finds a way to keep the story alive, although it’s crying to be laid to rest. I imagine this was the man’s intent in trying to imitate a circle in that it has no end or beginning. I felt in a circle alright–no way out.

All in all, I would suggest the Circle Series to anyone, even Green. They are an extremely well-written, heart-pounding adventures with too many connections to our own world to count. The thought invoked by these parables alone are worth the read.